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Be Thankful for the Elders in our Lives

As the pandemic disproportionately affected our elders, this Thanksgiving, let’s take a moment to be thankful for all the elderly persons in our lives. Depending on what stage of life you are in this could include great grandparents, grandparents, parents, other loved ones, and our neighbors. 

If the politics get too rough at the family Thanksgiving table, a great change of topic is always one of our favorites – Estate Planning!! 😉

In all seriousness, when the family is together for a holiday it is a perfect time to bring up important matters such as planning for the future, including paying for elders healthcare and handling health care emergencies and making sure there is an advance plan to safeguard finances. 

It’s important everyone is informed of the elder’s wishes. Getting everyone on the same page as much as possible helps the process later. And after Thanksgiving, if you’d like help with your estate planning, elder law questions, or even advice on how to start the conversation with your parents and other loved ones, give us a call!

However if the conversation drifts back to politics and you need a way out, here are some conversation starters for the Thanksgiving table, taken from some articles we found:

Politically Neutral Conversation Starters, besides estate planning that even the Elders might enjoy!!

Dune’ 2021: There were thousands of memes made about “Dune,” but it turned out to be a pretty great movie that lived up to the hype. You can chat about if the remake was better than the original or how great Hans Zimmer’s soundtrack was. If anyone at your Thanksgiving hasn’t seen it, you can even still stream it on HBO Max once dinner is over.

Matt Amodio, was on ‘Jeopardy!’ for a really long time: OK, how cool was that?

It seems to be every 10 years or so there is a “Jeopardy!” contestant who captivates viewers with their win streaks, and that just happened with Matt Amodio.

When he hit the month mark on his win streak, it felt like an event every night watching the show.

It was such a feel-good story, so why not ask your relatives if they were as excited about it as you were?


It’s back! After being off the air for more than two years because of the pandemic, HBO’s “Succession” is a few weeks into its third season, and people have opinions. Admittedly, this one might tie into the Elder planning conversations.

If people at your Thanksgiving table haven’t seen the show yet, this is the perfect opportunity to tell them about it, and then watch the pilot episode after dinner.

Ariana Grande on ‘The Voice’:

“The Voice” has Kelly Clarkson, alongside, Ariana Grande, the show finally feels fresh and exciting again.

Grande has been so fun to watch this season, so why not see if others agree with you?

Another Olympics is right around the corner:

The last two years feel like they barely happened, but now we’ve got the Winter Olympics coming up just mere months after the pushed-back Summer Olympics.

The Olympics are always fun, but two during a global pandemic? That will be fun to discuss.

Whether it’s a bones day:

If you’re addicted to TikTok, you know if it’s a bones day or not. But for the uneducated, let me enlighten you: There is a guy on the app named Jonathan Graziano who has a 13-year-old elder pug named Noodle.

This pug has lived quite a long life, and doesn’t always feel up to moving around.

Every day on TikTok, he will prop Noodle up and see if he’s going to use his bones. If he stays upright, it’s a bones day. If Noodle flops to the ground, it’s no-bones day. It’s like Groundhog Day when we wait to see if the groundhog can see its shadow and we plan accordingly.

You can show your family some videos of Noodle and get them invested in checking if it’s going to be a bones or a no-bones day.


A Safe and Happy Halloween 2021!

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With Halloween-related activities occurring mostly at night, combined with the visually obstructive nature of many costumes, it is no surprise that pedestrian accidents increase dramatically during the spookiest of holidays.

As our children and teens take to the streets to visit haunted houses, attend gatherings, or to go trick-or-treating, it is important for parents to remind them to be alert when walking or behind the wheel.

Driver distraction and/or intoxication is the most common cause of preventable automobile accidents.

Some haunting statistics:

Happy Halloween 2021
  • The pedestrian death rate among teens is twice that of younger children.
  • Nationwide statistics show a 23% increase in drunken driving incidents occurs each Halloween.
  • More than 12 percent of parents report that their child, age 5 years or younger, is permitted to trick or treat without adult supervision.

How can you help make 2021 a Happy Halloween?

Please take the time to talk to your family about safety this Halloween and reduce the number of child pedestrian accidents. Here are five safety tips that are sure to keep your kids safe this season:

  • For younger children trick or treat and cross streets only when an adult is present.
  • Walk on sidewalks or paths. If there are no sidewalks, walk facing traffic as far to the left as possible.
  • Cross the street at corners, using traffic signals and crosswalks. Parents should remind children to watch for cars that are turning or backing up.
  • Look left, right and then left again when crossing, and keep looking as you cross streets. Walk, never run, across the street.
  • Include a bright or reflective element with costumes to help increase visibility of the wearer and never restrict their movement or vision.

Our favorite Happy Halloween stories from the legal community:


Synopsis: Don’t worry, Wisconsinites– the only law on the books regarding Halloween is Wis. Stat. 941.235, which states that “whoever places objects, drugs, or other substances in candy or other liquid or solid edibles with the intent to cause bodily harm to another person is guilty of a Class I felony.” (See State v. Timm, 163 Wis. 2d 894 (1991)).

(There is, however, a hilarious appellate case wherein the plaintiff appealed the trial court’s decision because his attorney found out that the jury had been given leftover Halloween candy by the court. The appellate court found that this did not constitute a bias. See State v. Green, 2013 Wisc. App. LEXIS 908 (2013).)

And as your children get older and start families of their own consider our Estate planning services.

Happy Labor Day 2021

Our law firm will be closed on September 6,  in observance of Labor Day 2021. This U.S. federal holiday recognizes the social and economic achievements of American workers.

The first U.S. observation of the holiday occurred in 1894. The holiday always falls on the first Monday in September. Federal government statistics show that more than  145,000,000 men and women are employed in our country.

We hope you are celebrating Labor Day 2021 with your family and friends. We’re here to help you with any estate planning needs you may have. Call us at 262-632-2899 or at your convenience. 

Happy 4th of July – from Rebecca Mason Law

To all the clients and friends of Rebecca Mason Law, we wish you a happy 4th of July. Today we celebrate America’s birthday and remember the sacrifices that have been made for this amazing country. We are lucky to be able to call ourselves American. We want to take this opportunity to thank all those who have sacrificed to make this country a better place.

Have a safe 4th everyone, and happy birthday America.

As a note: our office will be closed monday July 5th for the holiday. However please use the contact form on our homepage if you need anything.

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Memorial Day began as Decoration Day

Some of our readers have never heard of Decoration Day. What we now call Memorial Day was originally Decoration Day.

In the mid-late 1800s families visited local cemeteries or traveled out of town to military cemeteries. They visited to decorate the graves of loved ones who died during military service and remember.

The Library of Congress reports that the first national celebration took place on May 30, 1868, at Arlington National Cemetery.

The transition to Memorial Day

Participation in Decoration Day was considered a civic duty. Every American was expected to decorate the graves of the people who died while serving in the armed forces. Early on, different states chose different dates to honor the dead. At the turn of the century, Americans began referring to the holiday as Memorial Day. In 1971, officials moved the holiday to the last Monday in May. The recognition was formalized to honor all American soldiers who died in all wars.

In modern times, people connect the holiday with family gatherings, BBQs, and retail sales. However, as we come out of lockdown from Covid-19 we are thankful it is still celebrated with parades and cemetery visits across America.

Memorial Day has an important role

It is important to honor the men and women who sacrificed their lives in the name of our country. We may be more aware of them, and their service, now than we were in years past.

The United States is slowly coming out of this pandemic and pulling out our folding chairs. Think about your loved ones and remind them why we celebrate Memorial Day. So take a few minutes to consider what Memorial Day used to be, what it is today, and why it matters.

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In Aunt Chelsea’s Stable – Our Christmas Story

Last year, back when things were the old normal and we had Christmas pageants and were able to gather in person, our kids were proud to sing with the children’s choir.  Driving home from church, one asked: “Who is Aunt Chelsea?”  I racked my brain.  We don’t have any family members named Chelsea.  I asked if she meant our friend Chelsea?  

No.  She wanted to know more about Aunt Chelsea who let Mary and Joseph stay with her that first Christmas.  “You know.  Gloria, in Aunt Chelsea’s Stable.”  They had sung their hearts out to the hymn “Gloria” all the while thinking that Aunt Chelsea was a pretty kind person.

This year is hard.  We are separated from so many loved ones.  We can’t gather like we use to.  

Be safe.  Be healthy.  Remember all the Aunt Chelsea’s in our lives.  

Wishing you and your loved ones peace and happiness this Christmas. We all look forward to meeting in person in 2021.

Merry Christmas from Rebecca Mason Law

“Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love.”

-Hamilton Wright Mabie 1846-1916

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Estate Plan: What to do with a problematic in-law?

I see the impact of problematic in-laws on a weekly basis.

To be clear, I struck gold with my own in-laws.  They are extremely supportive and loving.  I don’t think I’m going out on a limb to say the feelings are mutual.  One of the hardest things about social distancing to prevent the spread of COVID-19 is not being able to spend time together in person.  Thanksgiving and the rest of this holiday season are going to be particularly difficult.  

But not everyone has a great relationship with their in-laws.  In fact, based on what we see in our office, it is not uncommon for families to have at least one problematic in-law. Someone who is just out of sync with the rest of the family.  

Why does a problematic in-law impact your estate planing?

If you do not yet have an estate plan and you do not have a surviving spouse, Wisconsin law designates your children as the “natural objects of your bounty.” That means your child or children will inherit your estate.  When you have family harmony, this makes sense.  In fact, for those who have the foresight to make an estate plan, most leave their estate to their children (if there is no surviving spouse).  Many of us sacrifice a bit throughout our lifetimes with the hope of passing some inheritance to our children.  It is the natural order of things.

Some things are out of our control

And then your child goes off and marries someone you distain. Not someone who is a little annoying.  Someone who is simply awful, loathsome, and repulsive.  If your child inherits your estate, what happens if she predeceases you? Allows his spouse to consume the inheritance? What if she gets divorced?  

Problematic In-law
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Part of growing up is allowing your child to make their own choices.  But our choices have consequences.  There are a few techniques you can use in your estate plan to address the problematic in-law.  This is not about teaching your child a lesson.  It is about protecting the inheritance.  

The most extreme option is to disinherit your child.  The Wisconsin Supreme Court recently reaffirmed that one of your most important rights is the power to dispose of your property as you choose and, therefore, parents have no duty to leave their estate to their children.  Nonetheless, disinheriting a child can have significant emotional and financial consequences for your loved ones.  It can be emotionally painful for the child.  It can also deny your child funds that could provide additional financial stability.  Her siblings may feel guilty for inheriting their sibling’s share of the estate.  And it can lead to a court challenge and protracted litigation over the inheritance.  

You have options

In the alternative, you can work with your lawyer to decrease the likelihood that the problematic in-law receives anything from your estate.  The most common approach is to hold the funds in a trust for your child’s benefit and restrict the spouse’s access to the funds.  Then, if your child gets divorced, the assets are protected and preserved for your child.  And upon your child’s death, the funds can be directed to your child’s children (your grandchildren) or divided among your surviving children and/or charities.    

You can also skip a generation and gift the funds to your child’s children.  This is actually a common approach when a child predeceases – even when you like the in-law.  You can accomplish this through outright gifts to your grandchildren or holding the inheritance in a trust for their benefit until they are old enough to manage the funds responsibly.  

Your estate plan, or lack thereof, cannot be corrected after you die.  If you find yourself struggling with your child’s choice of spouse, you would benefit from a conversation with a lawyer who specializes in estate planning.  There may be a way to avoid or minimize conflict with a problematic in-law and maximize your child’s access to the inheritance.

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Blog: Wisconsin blended families & estate planning

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Blog: 10 Tips for Dealing With In-Laws

by: Laurie E. Rozakis, PhD

Pumpkin Spice Estate Plan

New clients in the month of November receive a gift certificate to enjoy Wilson’s Coffee and Tea with your completed estate plan.

Bundled Estate Plan Gift Certificate:

Married Couples – $100
Single Individual – $50

Unbundled Estate Plans – $20

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New clients in November receive a gift certificate to Wilson's Coffee and Tea with your completed estate plan

Bundled Plan Gift Certificate:
Married Couples - $100
Single Individual - $50

Unbundled Estate Plans - $20

*Contracts must have initial consultation in November and executed prior to 2021

*Contracts must have initial consultation in November and executed prior to 2021

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When you love someone with dementia

When you love someone with dementia, you lose the same person twice. 

As defined by the Mayo Clinic, Dementia is a group of symptoms that affect memory, thinking, and social abilities.  Several different diseases cause dementia  Alzheimer’s is one of the most common and well-known forms of dementia.

At Rebecca Mason Law, we counsel many clients through the heartbreaking process of losing a loved one to dementia.  It is one of the most difficult things a family can experience.

The early stages are some of the hardest as you watch your loved one’s memory fade in and out.  In the beginning, many struggle with knowing their memory is fading and that there is nothing they can do to stop it.  Some become belligerent and violent.  While others withdraw.

As dementia progresses, the brain slowly dies.  Many come to a point where they cannot recognize their loved ones. 

Rebecca Mason's Grandma had Dementia

My grandma suffered from dementia.  Near the end of her life, she had no idea who I was — but she could recite word for word the commencement speech she gave to her 8th grade class nearly 80 years prior.  She would ask me why her grandchildren never visited her.   

It is hard.  There is no fix and no easy way to get through Dementia.  You grieve when they forget who you are.  You grieve every time they don’t remember your face, every time you have to reintroduce yourself, every time have a conversation with your loved one about yourself as if you are not you.  And again when they physically die.

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Planning To Ensure Your Independence this 4th of July

Jul 4, 2020 | Estate Planning, Rebecca Mason Law Blog

For the first time in 15yrs, we are not celebrating our independence by walking in the Racine 4th of July parade. We are all sad about this and it underscores the uncertainty of 2020.  

Mason Girls Celebrating Independence

As we consider Independence Day 2020, a lesson we can learn from this year is that the future is uncertain. How do we protect ourselves, our family, and our businesses from a sudden loss of autonomy? This year in particular, many of us have had to face this type of concern head on.  Is there a way to be more prepared? A durable power of attorney for can go a long way to help.

The durable power of attorney allows you to name someone who can make decisions for you if are unable. With the durable power of attorney for finances & property, your designated decision maker will have the authority to act on matters related to your finances and property on your behalf. For example, your agent will be able to pay your bills, manage your income and handle your affairs in the way you would want if you could not act independently.  For your health care power of attorney, your agent has the authority to work with your medical team to make decisions about your health care.

Through your estate plan, your chosen decision maker will be able to fulfill your wishes if you cannot act for yourself.

What makes a power of attorney durable?

When you are working with Rebecca Mason to create your estate plan, is durability important? The durability provision means that it is able to be used in the event of your incapacity. This is a critical aspect to your estate plan. While a power of attorney is a vital tool in all respects, you will need it most in the event you cannot make your own decisions.

Power of attorney documents are just one facet of your comprehensive Wisconsin estate plan.

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